Increase your chance of a date online!
FACT – Men outnumber women 2 to one on most dating sites. This scary fact means that if you are a bloke… then you have some serious competition to contend with. There are approximately 16 million singles online that are looking for love, with 11 million of these being men.
Get this - A good looking female profile will get more than 100 winks and 50 messages in a single day. This is what you are contending with fellas.
SO… how does a man get noticed I hear you say? Well, it’s down to your approach of course. Posting a picture and a good profile is one thing, and once you have this sorted you only need worry about the very first email.
A good email response.
This is make or break guys and you need to make every approach individual in order to attract the attention of a particular person. Don’t make the worst mistake – emailing the same crap to loads of different girls (scattergun approach) as when women read this they will be able to tell that you have just done exactly that (they aint stoopid!)
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Carefully choose someone who interests you and then read her profile carefully making very brief notes on what you both have in common. Then go to work! Write your email talking her language and presenting an opinion on an interest she may have or you may share.
Women get emailed some really poorly prepared emails and the only places these end up is in the trash folder. The BIG secret is to understand the sort of person they are from their profile and then tailor a response to them.
Be cheeky, subjects that just say something like ‘Hello’ are plenty and won’t get you noticed. Ask a question instead or just have a bit of fun ‘Frog needs a princess to kiss’! Present a sense of humour, but don’t cross the line of rudeness, it won’t be appreciated.
Summary:
GOOD IDEAS
Read her profile and make notes. Understand what she is looking for and then work out if you are the one, and if so why!
Good subject heading. Make sure your email grabs her attention. Again relate this to her profile and interests.
Tailor every email. Make sure each email appeals specifically to each different lady. It may take longer but I guarantee that your responses will go up 10 fold.
Be yourself. Write the email from the heart and appeal to what she is looking for, there will be loads of clues in her profile which are basically her heartstrings. Find the rhythm and strum them good.
Sell yourself. Get creative with your words and ideas. Don’t sell yourself short, be confident but certainly not arrogant.
Be brief. It is likely that the only words on your email that she will read will be the first line, so make them count.
Call to action. Make sure you close the email with something like ‘Look forward to hearing from you’, it will give her more of a prod to get back to you.
BAD IDEAS
Send the same crap email to 10 girls!
Be rude or explicit.
Write a 2000 essay on your life!
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READER COMMENTS:
Good advice, its incredble just how much of the same crap I get through from men. They mostly just end up spamming me and I never look at it. Men, take note!
Posted by Gemma on Wed 9th August 2006 at 08:13 PM | #