How To Ask Someone Out
Picture this… you have the crazy hots for someone and feel an instant attraction… what do you do next?
What will they say when you ask them out? What happens if they say no?
All these questions buzz round your head. Relax…… and take your time and remember ‘He who dares wins!’
So what if they say NO…. at least you are bold enough to ask… so many of us let these opportunities pass us by.
I can’t pretend to give you a magic formula like so many of these books and other websites do (after you have parted with £10!!!), but I can give you the benefit of experience on what does and does not work.
Point 1
Check out my tips for reading body language. This will help you understand if someone is giving you signals and will help you identify a suitable mate.
Point 2
Starting a conversation…. This can sometimes be a struggle because you are often feeling very self conscious. Men and women are very different in this scenario and this is to do with something cavemen passed onto us. Men always welcome women (most of the time), and women tend to be more choosy who they speak to. What you must remember is to be confident in yourself. Take a big breath and just go be yourself. A witty (not rude) comment or a compliment always goes down a storm. If you combine the two, then you have a great chance.
Point 3
Your potential partner will form an immediate impression about you so its so important to present yourself in a suitable manner, shoulders back, combed hair, dressed to impress…. You know what I mean.
Point 4
Know when to give up! If you are hitting a brick wall and just getting nowhere, just be polite and be confident when you say, “nice to chat, have a good evening”. Never be rude, even if they are rude to you… you never know the situation may turn around for you, and they like the show of confidence.
Point 5
Don’t lie… it is far too easy to be caught out. Ladies I have spoken to tell me they have been approached by thousands of ‘pilots’ whose stories just fall apart after a bit of digging.
Point 6
Play it cool…. If you are getting on well, test their interest by saying ‘nice to chat, catch you later’ you will be surprised how quickly they come to find you after an hour or two.
Point 7
Practice makes perfect. If you get knocked back the first few times, just try to think of it as water off a ducks back and get your ass back out there. As soon as you start thinking too hard and taking it too seriously, it becomes a chore!
Now go make that move!
However… if you want to get even with date that’s turned out to be an absolute nightmare then you need to go and Slate Your Date today!
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READER COMMENTS:
Great post Mr Allen. I’m going to try out 7 points this weekend.
Cheers.
Dave
Posted by Dave on Tue 9th May 2006 at 09:30 PM | #